My Brother, William Wheeler and my Sister-in law, Jennifer Wheeler,
ripped-off and then **** on their handicapped brother when he needed his
family more than anything....
I still can't really believe what's happened.... I always loved and
respected my brother, his wife, and family. I never was a real part of
any family, because our family broke up after my father left, so I tried
hard to be a good uncle to my niece and nephew. Since I live in Thailand
and they live in California, I called the family once or twice a month
to chat with everyone, and I also sent the family mail-order gifts, like
omahasteaks...I missed them all, and I was happy to send them little
things over the years...They never sent me anything, but that wasn't my
need, nor my point in sending them things...On Christmas, I sent
presents to the kids and to my sister and brother....
A few years ago, Jennifer sent me an email saying 'you don't need to
send the kids presents at Christmas. 'We don't exchange gifts outside
the immediate family anymore' I didn't feel bad, because I thought she
was just telling me not to expect any gifts from them...I had never
received anything, anyway, including any kind of thank you note from the
kids, so I didn't think much then, but I did wonder why they had not
gotten the kids to write or call me to say thanks....Just being polite,
in my book, and I remember my mom sitting down with me, helping me to
write thank you notes when I was a kid...I couldn't imagine receiving
something from someone and not acknowledging that, but I love my family,
so I didn't let it bug me much..
When I was married, my wife tried many times to make some contact with
my family, especially at holidays...My wife had no parents when she was
young, so she never had a family...I wanted her to be a part of my
family, but only my mom ever showed interest. Actually, she loved my
wife, too, I'm sure. But my brother? He tried to sleep with her when he
visited Thailand, and I had to ask him twice to stop making ***ual
comments about my wife...especially in front of me...These incidents
happened just after I was released from the hospital in Malaysia and
still being paralyzed, my mom gave my brother $ 3,000 to fly to Malaysia
and drive me and my wife home. I appreciated my brother helping me, but
I didn't appreciate him trying to help himself with my wife...She
finally came to me and told that she was uncomfortable with him, and
that he had also asked her to pose for some private bikini shots when
they went swimming at the pool together. Every night, for 5 nights, Bill
went to bars and rented 2 women every night, telling all the details the
next day. In retrospect, helping me was simply a way to screw around on
his wife. She still doesn't know...
After Bill went back to America, I continued to try to be a part of my
nephew and niece's life, but I was literally stopped dead in my tracks
each time. When my nephew got involved in the internet, I bought a
personal website for my nephew and niece, planning on helping the (via
the internet) to build a webpage of their hobbies and interests, like
millions of kids his age around the world...Jennifer absolutely refused
the whole idea, and would not even discuss it with me, instead, handing
the phone to my brother and refusing to say one more word to me. She was
angry, but I don't know why. We hadn't even tried to discuss anything
yet...and I was being very gentle the whole time. I loved them, I didn't
want make problems for anyone, I just wanted to be welcome in my family,
but I wasn't, and I still rack my brains as to why she has never allowed
me into her heart, or the heart of my nephew and niece.
After my stroke, my mom died a few months later...I wanted so much to go
home for her funeral, but Jennifer said it 'wouldn't be convenient for
them' (I also needed physical help, too), but they were making a video
of the funeral and memorial service especially to send to me...They did
make it, but even after several requests, they never sent it to me, even
though everyone knew my mom and I were very close, especially since my
marriage 7 years earlier. That did hurt my feelings..
During one of my phone calls after my mom died, when we were discussing
the funeral arrangements, Jennifer said, sorry, but my phone bill is too
high on our home calls, and I just want you to know that we will never
call you...It's too expensive" ....Huh? Out of left-field, to be
sure...Okay, I'm getting the hint.....My phone bill is much higher than
theirs, but when I call, it's because I love and miss them . The cost (
about 30 cents a minute from the US) had little meaning to me...Oh, my
brother and his wife are multi-millionaires, with a cash business that
brings in over $50,000 cash per day...They own motorcycles, boats, and
luxury cars, including a Range Rover and Lincoln Limousine... So, when
she complained that money was the issue regarding phone calls to me, I
finally realized her point....That was also the next to the last time
she ever talked to me...She has never answered my emails since then,
either.
A month or so later, I learned that my wife had another lover. My heart
was completely broken, but I also could understand, to a degree...I was
still paralyzed from my stroke, and I required here help 24 hours per
day.. I couldn't yet walk very well, and I needed help in the bathroom
and with bathing, too. My wife was great, but I think the pressure was
too much after awhile. I couldn't be the husband she wanted, and so she
went out to look for that affection that I couldn't physically give
anymore....But, I had always made clear that I had very strong values
about marriage and loyalty...I had never done anything bad in our
marriage...When she admitted her new lover, our marriage had to end...My
wife had no intention of leaving him, so she had to leave me.....Oh,
man, what a terrible time! I couldn't take care of myself, yet I had
just kicked out my wife, the only person who had been helping me..I was
so afraid of having another stroke, or falling down, and how was I going
to bathe and cook food? I needed help, but I was alone..
Just after I kicked my wife out, she started calling my Brother and
Jennifer, asking Bill to come to Thailand and save her by taking her
back to America. She also told them I had kicked her out on the streets,
penniless...Not true, at all...I gave her a BMW car, which I had bought
for her birthday a couple of weeks earlier, along with 50,000 in gold,
and another 100,000 baht in cash, with promises to continue paying her
medicine bills of 5,000 baht per month, forever. Shortly after I met
her, she told me she had HIV. I really loved her by then, so I opted to
give up my dream of having kids and a family, and committed to her, and
committed to paying all her medical bills , forever. I guess, in
retrospect, I wouldn't have done it different...I mean , here is a young
woman with no family, no friends, no education, and no way to pay for
HIV medicine...As a human, I just couldn't turn my back on her, so
devastated she was by the news of her HIV...
My mom had a will, personal jewelry, stocks and cash....My brother was
executor of the will, and his close friends were the accountant, lawyer
and stock broker for my mom's will... Because I completely trusted my
brother, I gave him full, unquestioned sup****t in everything, even
voting against my (crazy) sister when she wanted to use an outside
accountant to be transparent. I regret not sup****ting her then, since
I've come ton realize that my brother has ripped me off (after
completely stripping my mom's house of all jewelry and valuable
furniture, even pieces that were given to me by my mom...She also had a
safety deposit box with some gold, stock certificates, and other items
of jewelry. My mom had told me that the gold was for me, given to me by
my uncle in his will... My brother cleaned that out, but never told me
what was inside, and never sent me anything, nor did he tell my
sister...When I asked, he just said..'It wasn't worth anything', and
refused to provide details
As it looks now, my Bill and Jennifer have stolen all of my personal
items, even after requesting then be sent to me, and offering to pay any
amount to get my stuff sent to me, overseas..He has also stolen at least
$5,000 due me from the will, manipulated the stock shares (with his
friend's help) so that he had the valuable stocks, and my sister and I
were left with what he didn't want...Multiple requests for my mom's
stock account statement for that period have been simply ignored by Bill
and Jennifer.
Truthfully, the money has no meaning to me. I valued my family over
money, unlike my brother and his wife. But, I failed to see what kind of
people my brother Bill and Jennifer were like. Liars, cheaters, thieves,
Greedy, self-centered, with no apparent qualms about ripping off their
own family members..even the dead or physically disabled ones
The part that really hurt was when they stopped communicating with me
just before the holidays... I had called their house one evening to wish
the family a merry Xmas....They had a party happening at that time. My
brother wasn't there (they said), and my sister in law got on, and in
her best, loving voice, said, Larry were having a party now...I love you
sooo much!, and I will call you later....Bye! Never a word after that...
They new that I was very lonely, this being the first 'family' holiday
without my mom, or my wife, or anyone...I truly felt totally abandoned
and alone...I'd never felt so sad and lonely before...I just imagine why
my brother and sister in law had done this to me....I seriously couldn't
envision anyone acting so cruelly to a brother who loved them dearly,
and was always a loving, respectful brother. This question is still the
root of so much pain...I still cry, even months later, when I think
about it. I am a good man, but I was treated like some kind of dog, or
worse... My Brother, William Wheeler and my Sister-in law, Jennifer
Wheeler, ripped-off and then **** on their handicapped brother when he
needed his family more than anything....
I still can't really believe what's happened.... I always loved and
respected my brother, his wife, and family. I never was a real part of
any family, so I tried hard to be a good uncle to my niece and nephew.
Since I live in Thailand and they live in California, I called the
family once or twice a month to chat with everyone, and I also sent the
family mail-order gifts, like omahasteaks...I missed them all, and I was
happy to send them little things over the years...They never sent me
anything, but that wasn't my need, nor my point in sending them
things...On Christmas, I sent presents to the kids and to my sister and
brother....
A few years ago, Jennifer sent me an email saying 'you don't need to
send the kids presents at Christmas. 'We don't exchange gifts outside
the immediate family anymore' I didn't feel bad, because I thought she
was just telling me not to expect any gifts from them...I had never
received anything, anyway, including any kind of thank you note from the
kids, so I didn't think much then, but I did wonder why they had not
gotten the kids to write or call me to say thanks....Just being polite,
in my book, and I remember my mom sitting down with me, helping me to
write thank you notes when I was a kid...I couldn't imagine receiving
something from someone and not acknowledging that, but I love my family,
so I didn't let it bug me much..
When I was married, my wife tried many times to make some contact with
my family, especially at holidays...My wife had no parents when she was
young, so she never had a family...I wanted her to be a part of my
family, but only my mom ever showed interest. Actually, she loved my
wife, too, I'm sure. But my brother? He tried to sleep with her when he
visited Thailand, and I had to ask him twice to stop making ***ual
comments about my wife...especially in front of me...These incidents
happened just after I was released from the hospital in Malaysia and
still being paralyzed, my mom gave my brother $ 3,000 to fly to Malaysia
and drive me and my wife home. I appreciated my brother helping me, but
I didn't appreciate him trying to help himself with my wife...She
finally came to me and told that she was uncomfortable with him, and
that he had also asked her to pose for some private bikini shots when
they went swimming at the pool together. Every night, for 5 nights, Bill
went to bars and rented 2 women every night. In retrospect, helping me
was simply a way to screw around on his wife. She still doesn't know...
After Bill went back to America, I continued to try to be a part of my
nephew and niece's life, but I was literally stopped dead in my tracks
each time. When my nephew got involved in the internet, I bought a
website hisname.com for my nephew and niece, planning on helping the
(via the internet) to build a webpage of their hobbies and interests,
like millions of kids his age around the world...Jennifer absolutely
refused the whole idea, and would even discuss it with me, instead,
handing the phone to my brother and refusing to say one more word to me.
She was angry, but I don't know why. We hadn't even tried to discuss
anything yet...and I was being very gentle the whole time. Remember, I
loved them, I didn't want make problems for anyone, I just wanted to be
welcome in my family, but I wasn't, and I still rack my brains as to why
she has never allowed me into her heart, or the heart of my nephew and
niece.
After my stroke, my mom died a few months later...I wanted so much to go
home for her funeral, but Jennifer said it 'wouldn't be convenient for
them', but they were making a video of the funeral and memorial service
especially to send to me...They did make it, but even after several
requests, they never sent it to me, even though everyone knew my mom and
I were very close, especially since my marriage 7 years earlier. That
did hurt my feelings..
During one of my phone calls after my mom died, when we were discussing
the funeral arrangements, Jennifer said, sorry, but my phone bill is too
high from our business calls, and I just want you to know that we will
never call you...It's too expensive" Huh? Out of left-field, to be
sure...Okay, I'm getting hint.....My phone bill much higher than theirs,
but when I call, it's because I love and miss them . The cost ( about 30
cents a minute) had little meaning to me...Oh, my brother and his wife
are multi- millionaires, with a cash business that brings in over
$50,000 cash per day...They own motorcycles, boats, and luxury cars,
including a Range Rover and Lincoln Limousine... So, when she complained
that money was the issue regarding phone calls to me, I finally realized
her point....That was also the last time she ever talked to me...She has
never answered my emails since then, either.
A month or so later, I learned that my wife had another lover. My heart
was completely broken, but I also could understand, to a degree...I was
still paralyzed from my stroke, and I required here help 24 hours per
day.. I couldn't yet walk very well, and I needed help in the bathroom
and with bathing, too. My wife was great, but I think the pressure was
too much after awhile. I couldn't be the husband she wanted, and so she
went out to look for that affection that I couldn't physically give
anymore....But, I had always made clear that I had very strong values
about marriage and loyalty...I had never done anything bad in our
marriage...When she admitted her new lover, our marriage had to end...My
wife had no intention of leaving him, so she had to leave me.....Oh,
man, what a terrible time! I couldn't take care of myself, yet I had
just kicked out my wife, the only person who had been helping me..I was
so afraid of having another stroke, or falling down, and how was I going
to bathe and cook food? I needed help, but I was alone..
Just after I kicked my wife out, she started calling my Brother and
Jennifer, asking Bill to come to Thailand and save her by taking her
back to America. She also told them I had kicked her out on the streets,
penniless...Not true, at all...I gave her a BMW car, which I had bought
for her birthday a couple of weeks earlier, along with 50,000 in gold,
and another 100,000 baht in cash, with promises to continue paying her
medicine bills of 5,000 baht per month, forever. Shortly after I met
her, she told me she had HIV. I really loved her by then, so I opted to
give up my dream of having kids and a family, and committed to her, and
committed to paying all her medical bills , forever. I guess, in
retrospect, I wouldn't have done it different...I mean , here is a young
woman with no family, no friends, no education, and no way to pay for
HIV medicine...As a human, I just couldn't turn my back on her, so
devastated by the news of her HIV...
My mom had a will, personal jewelry, stocks and cash....My brother was
executor of the will, and his close friends were the accountant, lawyer
and stock broker for my mom's will... Because I completely trusted my
brother, I gave him full, unquestioned sup****t in everything, even
voting against my (crazy) sister when she wanted to use an outside
accountant to be transparent. I regret not sup****ting her then, since
I've come ton realize that my brother has ripped me off (after
completely stripping my mom's house of all jewelry and valuable
furniture, even pieces that were given to me by my mom...She also had a
safety deposit box with some gold, stock certificates, and other items
of jewelry. My mom had told me that the gold was for me, given to me by
my uncle in his will... My brother cleaned that out, but never told me
what was inside, and never sent me anything, nor did he tell my
sister...
As it looks now, my Bill and Jennifer have stolen all of my personal
items, even after requesting then be sent to me, and offering to pay any
amount to get my stuff..He has also stolen at least $5,000 due me from
the will, manipulated the stock shares (with his friend's help) so that
he had the valuable stocks, and my sister and I were left with what he
didn't want...Multiple requests for my mom's stock account statement for
that period have been simply ignored by Bill and Jennifer.
Truthfully, the money has no meaning to me. I valued my family over
money. But, I failed to see what kind of people my brother Bill and
Jennifer were like. Greedy, self-centered, with no apparent qualms about
ripping off their own family members..
The part that really hurt was when they stopped communicating with me
just before the holidays... I had called their house one evening to wish
the family a merry Xmas....They had a party happening at that time. My
brother wasn't there (they said), and my sister in law got on, and in
her best, loving voice, said, Larry were having a party now...I love you
sooo much!, and I will call you later....Bye! Never a word after that...
They new that I was very lonely, this being the first 'family' holiday
without my mom, or my wife, or anyone...I truly felt totally abandoned
and alone...I'd never felt so sad and lonely before...I just imagine why
my brother and sister in law had done this to me....I seriously couldn't
envision anyone acting so cruelly to a brother who loved them dearly,
and was always a loving, respectful brother. This question is still the
root of so much pain...I still cry, even months later, when I think
about it. I am a good man, but I was treated like some kind of dog, or
worse...
I'm writing all this because I'm desperate to seek closure in my
heart.... I'm hoping that writing down what happened, and my feelings,
will somehow make it better for me tomorrow...
I'm writing all this because I'm desperate to seek closure in my
heart.... I'm hoping that writing down what happened, and my feelings,
will somehow make it better for me tomorrow...
I pray for relief from this pain
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